If ain’t broke, don’t fix it–but pay attention to it: The importance of giving attention to positive behaviours from others
In this article, I discuss why it makes sense to give more attention to the behaviours we want to see more of from others and less attention to the behaviours we want to see less of. In my practice as a psychologist, I sometimes work with people whose goal is to change the behaviours of others. This typically entails the desire to have the other person increase the frequency of positive behaviours and decrease the frequency of negative behaviours. Examples include parents who would like their children do homework, behave respectfully and get chores done and a supervisor who wants their employees to perform better and make fewer mistakes on the job. Often these clients have struggled in getting others to do what they want because of how much attention they give to the negative and positive behaviours of the person. In the following sections, I will discuss how much attention you should give to the negative and positive behaviours of the person whose behaviour you are trying to change for the better...[more]
In this article, I discuss the similarities and differences among adults, adolescents and young children in how cognitive behavioural therapy is applied. In my practice as a psychologist who is certified in cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), I work with clients varying in age. This includes adults, adolescents and young children. And although CBT has been found to be effective for clients of different ages, there are some commonalities in the way it is used across ages as well as some age-related differences...[more]
How to be happy during stressful events: Focus on your activities and your thinking–not on your circumstances
In this article, I discuss how it is possible to experience positive mood in a stressful situation like the COVID-19 pandemic and the steps you can take to facilitate this. One of the most fascinating phenomena I’ve learned about as a psychologist is hedonic adaptation. As detailed by researcher Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky in The How of Happiness, hedonic adaptation occurs when people who experience events and circumstances which affect their mood positively or negatively eventually return to the level of mood and happiness they experienced prior to the event or circumstances. Research on hedonic adaptation consistently shows that events and circumstances typically have a temporary effect on mood and happiness so that one’s mood and happiness levels revert over time to the levels they were at previously...[more]
In this article, I discuss the importance of both task-focused and relationship-focused leadership in helping the people being led during a crisis. When I was in graduate school, one of the most fascinating projects I worked on was a class presentation on different styles of leadership. Research led me to conclude that there are two main styles of leadership. One is task-focused leadership which entails guiding the group you are leading toward the accomplishment of tasks. The second is relationship-focused leadership which concentrates of fostering good working relationships among the group members as well as between them and the leader...[more]
Tune-in to Cochrane Now 91.5FM radio on Monday May 4th for Dr. Pat’s tips and strategies to help lower anxiety to a manageable level during COVID-19. You can listen to the interview at the top and bottom of the hour between 6:00 am and 10:00 am and then at the top of the hour until 6:00 pm. Tune-in for the interview and share your questions and comments with Dr. Pat below.